Mom life
Mom life
Let's be real if you're thinking about becoming a stay at home mom.
From high heels, make-up that matched the clothes, never wanting to go out without make-up, to the comfortable mom life, my beloved sloppy sweatpants, no make-up, even when we were on a trip and my lovely pink crocs that I had been given, what had happened? I clearly remember coming to church heavily pregnant with this outfit and getting a very surprised look from someone who said, I never would have thought that about you! Well it had started, I hadn’t even given birth yet, just heavily pregnant and in the middle of moving into our first house, my focus had completely changed.
From not being interested in other babies or baby talk at all, this little miracle we had had, took all my focus and when he was 6 months old, we were expecting baby no. 2. My self denial trip had begun! but staying home with our children was a desire we had from the very beginning and I enjoyed it.
Cake company or time with my kids?
What has the most value?
At the same time, we had a scrap to castle project in progress, which we had just finished and when we sold the house and moved into a rented house we had 3 children and a puppy, Crazy Crazy Crazy, 3 small children and a dog that often ran away, peed on the floor, bit things, needed to be walked, etc. please dont do that, just a hint, wait with the puppy if you have small kids.
I was in the middle of a crazy test, had my little dreams of having time to learn new recipes, learn to make beautiful cakes, but that meant that mom would have to be all alone, dad had to look after the kids, which also took his time from being able to fix things. There I made a choice, what meant the most to me, my dreams of starting a cake company and realizing some of my own wishes, or my time with the family.
In my little daydream, I imagined looking back on a successful cake company, lots of hours spent on my dreams and needs, but with great regret that it took up all the time I could have spent with my family, suddenly these dreams had lost their great value, because what meant the most and what I will always be most proud of in life – is my family.
My children make me a better person!
Loved with all my faults and imperfections!
Well, let’s continue, go to house no. 2, which we bought about 10 months before we found out we were expecting no. 4, that meant mom had to stay in bed for about 1.5 months and now for the fourth time, isolated from the family and really nice and familiar with every little spot that could be in our toilet or bucket, well maybe I needed a little rest, meeeen.
About 7 kilos thinner and I had to manage everyday life again, Søren had to go back to work, after having to take almost 1.5 months off. I must admit it was a lot easier to have nausea the first and second time, the noise, the sleep, the needs, the conflicts are on a completely different level. A 2 year old who has a steadfast will that had to be worked with. What can I say my children make me a better person, I see in these moments that I have entered a world class of a Bible school, there is no better, I can only be grateful that these little demanding miracles cannot do that I am not feeling well, but will suck out of all my last little drop of love and attention. I am deeply grateful! if nothing else I am at least loved with all my faults and shortcomings.
If you dream of becoming better at patience, love, organization, leadership skills, endurance, kindness, conflict resolution and much more, then being a stay-at-home mom is a fantastic opportunity!
But if you dream of having more time to clean up, you will probably be disappointed, because your lovely kiddos will probably make sure you can do it all day, they are masters at messing, make more dust when they play at home, there is more food to cook, clean up after, etc. Sometimes it is a sport just to go to the bathroom 🙂
There are of course different seasons, some are harder or easier than others and if I think about what it is like to only have the 2 big ones, I think of vacation, because I am now with 2 little ones too.
Thinking time
Why are we so busy?
Baby no. 4 is a girl and I feel like dressing her up nicely, as I realize that it’s been years since I last spent any real time on skincare and make-up, that I actually have lots of nice clothes in my wardrobe, but I never bring it up that 6 months after giving birth, I still haven’t gotten out of my maternity sweatpants and smell like a blob of vomit. Don’t worry, it doesn’t have to be like that for you, the point is, I just didn’t find the time or care to spend time on making myself look nice, stay-at-home housewife jobs fortunately don’t come with a dress code, I just prioritize other things instead.
One thing I’ve found out is that all the things I want to do, like checking my phone, reading the Bible, writing, doing this and that and all the other crap you want to do, are just best done after the little ones are put to bed, instead of getting upset, angry or irritated about not having had time to do it. So now I’m just happy if I manage to do a little more than expected, but better that than feeling grumpy about not having been allowed. My eldest and I had a talk one day about how there is no time in heaven, thought-provoking, isn’t it? Have you noticed what time does to us? In the situations where you get the most irritated or stressed, it’s because of time pressure, you have to reach a certain time, get out the door, an appointment or manage to find time for what you have set out to do, something you want to achieve, there can be many things where time plays a role.
Time and presence are a gift, we can feel a big difference in our children when we give ourselves plenty of time to listen, educate, love, talk, have fun, etc.
3 sec. think time. Why are we always so busy?
Ok, Mom life:
You can choose to see it as:
Hard duties / or the opportunity to serve and love those you care about most.
Repeated reminders / or training them to develop good habits.
Boring conflicts / or teaching the children to deal with different situations.
Annoying children / or thinking, they didn’t come into the world knowing everything, I’m the one who has to show the way forward.
It’s a new chapter for us, I’ve put away all my sloppy sweatpants and am getting a little more colorful on my head, we now have 4 children and there are plenty of projects around us, there are also plenty of challenges, but I look at them differently now, the fight is in my head, in my thoughts, how I find my strength and help, I hope to have time to share more of it, here on the website and hope it can inspire and help others.
A thank you to my beloved husband!
You and your Family
Love does not fail!
No matter what situation you are in with your beautiful family, homemaker or not, don’t look back, but move forward in God’s grace and strength.
It’s beautiful to be a family, we all grow and learn from and with each other, embrace your beautiful family wherever you are, on your journey, there are always new things we can learn and give, it never ends! one thing that never fails is love!
